Last year, 2022, I watched a grand total of 320 movies. Over the past month I’ve made a list of all the movies I watched that I gave a rating of 4 out of 5 or 5 out of 5. Please remember that this is …
We finally are nearing the end of going through my aunts things. She passed in April and it’s now September. Crazy, I know…but there was so much stuff in her house.
The one thing that I have memories of from my childhood is this jewelry box. I remember where it sat in her bedroom and I remember being told it wasn’t a toy. It’s not sitting in my kitchen waiting for me to get some brushes and clean the flowers. My mom cleaned it as best she could, and I knew it would be hard for her to get the dust out of the flowers.
I start a short vacation on the 9th, so this is my project for my vacation. I’m going to clean the flowers and hopefully figure out how to clean the inside. The inside of it has a red piece of velvet that has a lot of dust stuck to it. The dancing girl also fell off the spring, so I’m going to try to glue it back in place.
I know this is a short and odd post, but I just wanted to post something.
As many people did last year and into the beginning of this year, vacations were staycations. We’re all getting very restless at this point and with the Delta variant starting to surge in many areas of the country, it’s at the point of travel at your own risk. I wear a mask still, even though I do have the vaccine. My mom has the vaccine but she also babysits my niece & nephew who are both too young to get the vaccine. That why I do it still.
Jason and I have talked about doing a roadtrip because we usually travel at least a few times during the year and last year we did none of that. We’re going to be traveling with masks and everything to be safe, and we’re not taking a plane. We’re driving. We had talked about just going to Cincinnati because it’s close and I’ve honestly never really been to the city, just through the city.
So we’re going to Salem (MA)! I booked a hotel that will be free if we have to cancel – if we feel it’s beginning to not be safe for any kind of travel. It seems to be within a good distance of everything so we should be able to walk the whole area.
Most of the things we’re going to be doing in Salem are things outdoors, there seems to be a lot of green space in Salem – as well as the monuments for the witch trials.
I’ve looked through some restaurants and I haven’t added any to the map yet. Since Salem is on the water, it’s a very seafood heavy area. We always do a “date night” dinner and spend what we normally wouldn’t spend on a dinner. I’m having such a hard time finding a place like that where I’ll be able to get something besides salad. I may have to suck it up and just get a salad so we can go somewhere nicer. I have found a couple other places to eat – such as brunch and a regular lunch. I still have to find a brewery or two for Jason to try some beers at.
Since we’re driving we’re going to be leaving September 9th after he finishes work – so around 6pm or 7pm. We’re going to stop halfway and stay in a hotel. So we’ll get to our hotel some time the following afternoon. We’re going to stay the 10th & 11th and leave for home the afternoon of the 12th – and do the same on the way home. Stay in a random hotel and finish the drive on the 13th. He used this special website that adds time to charge the car. It added under an hour to the trip, so in total the trip is around 11 1/2 hours. It should be a fun trip though!
I know I kind of dropped off the map since my last blog post. If you follow me on any social media, you know why I’ve been MIA on here.
On April 20th, my dad found my aunt laying in her bed. She had passed away at some point while she was sleeping. We now know, she passed away within hours of my dad finding her. My dad went to her house because my mom had not heard from her and when she tried to call, my mom found that her message box was full – which is totally unlike my aunt. My aunt had been ill over the past few days, but it seemed to be nothing more then the flu (not covid, don’t worry). Saying her passing came to us as a shock is an understatement. I was at work when my mom called me and I left work. I got home, changed my clothes and my boyfriend took the rest of the day off (he’s still working from home) & we went to my mom’s.
Now the more shocking part of this all, is being left with a hoarder situation that we have to clean up. It’s honestly a nightmare, and while cleaning her house it’s clear she was not well mentally. Seeing how a family member lives, seeing that there is only a small path to walk from the living room, to the bathroom and ending in the bedroom…there are no words for it. I know my mom is taking is especially hard because she didn’t know how bad it was, to be fair none of us did. My aunt wouldn’t ask for help, that’s the kind of person she was. Stubborn.
It has been years since I was really at her house. My younger brother though seemed to pop in from time to time (he lives within minutes of the property my mom, aunt & older brother live on). I guess though the past couple times he was there, she wouldn’t let him inside. We know why now.
Of course I’ve had my cry. The week after she passed away I think I cried at least once a day. It’s just hard to believe.
Growing up my aunt was the one personal I spent 90% of my time with. For my birthday last year and Christmas this year she made little towels for me to use in my bakery. During Easter she was asking me how to order glasses, I’ve been ordering glasses off a website for a few years. Now, there won’t be any more of that.
My aunt was also spending a lot of time with my niece, who will only be 10 at the end of May. The night my brother and mom told her they did a video chat with me after. You could tell my niece was crying at some point. She wanted to tell me about her day and what she ate. Nothing about my aunt. I’ve been able to spend a little time with her due to me being down there and helping everyone to clean the house.
When it comes to the house we’re not even half way done. Though last week nothing was really done due to the weather not being great. We had one dumpster, and we have to get another. While cleaning we’ve found family pictures, loads of books, and craft items that you could open a store with. Sadly we’re not finding any of the important documents or family items.
My brothers and I did make a joke that the will must be a scavenger hunt. We said that because growing up, for our birthdays (& Easter) you would have a scavenger hunt to find your gift. When she had Halloween parties the night would end with a huge scavenger hunt.
I’m not going to lie. I feel guilty. I wasn’t there. we weren’t as close as we once was. I moved 45 minutes away, I’m in a happy & healthy relationship, and I’ve thrown myself into work. I didn’t check on her. I didn’t ask my mom to check on her. I wasn’t there for her like she was there for me. I just wish this feeling would go away.